It’s not fake or over the top, straight from the heart…That’s how I like them. That it is true, doesn’t making it any less annoying, and d last couple of phrases aren’t helping…. Anyman asking for sex before marriage will sleep with you and go away.

All of you doing diction here and there, are the ones that end up marrying the “smooth talkers” (the heart breaker kind). this may sound silly but i was gonna type almost exactly what @smartbeautifulsingle…. You are rest assured not to fail. I don’t want to use such a strong word as “ignorance” to describe your comment but its around that area though. and is not shabby looking, she is good to marry, and lets face it, these women are not exactly in short supply (*cough* “decent miles” ). I mean the same people who put pressure on you are the same people who will laugh and constantly remind you when you make the wrong decision. But dt’s bc you are soo right, n its unfair! A Nigerian man is very hard-working compared to his counterparts in Diaspore because. He will find someone to meet his sexual need; it doesn’t have to be you. So offer what you can, be yourself, and if the man loves and wants you, let him marry you. Can’t a girl have some standards?

Is this the type of dimwitted thing that goes on in you guys’ minds? Yes, no? And never neglect the maid. When the time is right and the man is right, it will happen as it is supposed to. and i said school …he said re u doing yr first degree?…i said no my m..s.c and he said who will marry u with all this degree u re acquiring…i felt d shock n told my self wat if u hv no m.s.c and no husband…..so u can see wat runs in people’s brains even men of God……dear single sisters if ur picky pls be ,bc marriage is nt picnic its a serious affair…yr hapiness is paramount not d society…i lv u all. I dont agree with you Nich, so if i don’t wash my boyfriends clothes/plates, i’m not humble? Not quite sure what you are on about Jenny?! “Can he just be BREATHING? or is the man also allowed to kneel and apologize to me too?, then no problem. There’s a whole lot to read there.

btw: how do u post these write-up on this website?

Its really sad women are judged by how they helped others achieve greatness, not theirs.

If he fails to do so, he would be regarded as an irresponsible man in his own community; Nigerian men are expected to be independent by thirty at most.

rather than just jumping inside his arms…talking about ur dreams and problems, talking about ur friends wedding and the best joint or place u want to go…..concentrate on the keys to his heart….. If only the approach was different and all and not so straight up remind you of your age. 1. have u ever wanted to apologize to a guy b4 and u knelt down on ur knees to do so… because by sitting down and apologizing will not get the apology across or what please?

Start from re-programming your brain.

I know some girls who if the guy is their age mate, its a total no no and they are not interested. BTW, I’m a guy.

It gets more and more difficult to meet eligible guys in Abuja where I stay and it’s mind bugging cos I have over worked on myself,prayed, fasted and been in faith to the point that I’m just there now not knowing what next to do. Stephanie Okereke & Bez display their “style edge” in the October 2011 issue of Complete Fashion Magazine, Family Fun in Abuja! I am 21 and have only had 2 proper relationships. They were almost a dime a dozen and then seemingly all of a sudden (when I turned 27), they weren’t a dime a dozen anymore. if you can connect the dots and keep your pride in the toilet, there’s hope for all single ladies out there.

:-), Nice piece! Its a scream! Best of luck as you set out to win the heart of your Nigerian man. -da benjies i mean), but the final straw was on some day he said “people changes”. To say this guy ‘shells’ is a gross understatement! To the single sisters out there, please stand firm and like Temi mentioned be prayerful and your OWN will come. shikena, when you examine the single over 30 yrs old naija women…it’s mainly the educated and upwardly mobile ones. or na diction we go chop? Yeah things were pretty awkward at some point but I was much happier and felt good… Don’t date a guy or girl out of pity… Better to lose that friendship (if he/she is a friend- as bad as it maybe) then traumatize yourself. ???? And by standards I don’t mean superficial ones, I am referring to deeper characteristics related to religion, personality, and fidelity amongst others. Our aim is to provide daily living guide for Nigerians and her friends.

y’all disclaiming “shelling-guys” have shelled too… LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL. Too funny… Education is obviously a factor because it raises your standards and, that limits your social circle.

This would prove that as much as you love recklessly, you can also get wild when your anger is fueled. you would be long on the shelf. I loved that man with all my heart and he still has a special place in my heart though in have since moved on. Also, as long as differences in social class continue to exist, Eligibility would continue to mean different things to different people. Many people seem to expect this kind of thing from people they meet and date these days and I see it leaving a lot of them single. she just lost the current one about a month ago…..she now believes that marrying an old man…probably a housa man would solve her problems….she is about to be done with school and she is already facing the same problems many nigerian and african ladies are facing here in the states…..she now hates being single like hell….she is now very lonely….and for the fact that she is super beauty is what makes it dramatic.